Are You In An Abusive Relationship?

If you suspect that you might be in an abusive relationship, it’s important to gather information and evaluate the situation. Here are some questions to consider asking yourself:

  1. Am I afraid of my partner?: Assess whether you feel fear or anxiety around your partner, especially in certain situations or when certain topics come up.
  2. Does my partner control me?: Reflect on whether your partner tries to control your actions, decisions, or interactions with others.
  3. Do I feel isolated from friends and family?: Consider whether your partner discourages or prevents you from spending time with loved ones, leaving you feeling isolated.
  4. Are my feelings and opinions valued?: Evaluate if your partner dismisses or belittles your feelings, thoughts, and opinions.
  5. Is there consistent criticism or insults?: Think about whether your partner frequently criticizes you, insults you, or makes you feel inadequate.
  6. Are there explosive outbursts or anger?: Consider if your partner has frequent episodes of anger, yelling, or other intense emotional outbursts.
  7. Does my partner use manipulation or guilt?: Reflect on whether your partner uses manipulation, guilt-tripping, or blame-shifting to control or influence you.
  8. Is there a pattern of apologies and remorse?: Think about whether your partner often apologizes after episodes of abuse but the behavior doesn’t truly change.
  1. Do I feel like I’m walking on eggshells?: Assess if you’re often anxious or careful around your partner to avoid triggering negative reactions.
  2. Have I lost my sense of self-confidence?: Consider whether you feel less confident or have lower self-esteem due to your partner’s actions or words.
  3. Are there threats or intimidation?: Reflect on whether your partner threatens you, your safety, or your belongings.
  4. Is there a pattern of breaking promises?: Think about whether your partner consistently breaks promises to change or improve their behavior.
  5. Do I make excuses for their behavior?: Consider if you find yourself making excuses or justifying your partner’s actions to yourself or others.
  6. Is there a lack of trust?: Evaluate whether your partner exhibits a lack of trust in you, even when there’s no reason for it.
  7. Do I feel like I deserve the mistreatment?: Reflect on whether you believe you deserve the abusive treatment, which could indicate lowered self-worth.
  8. Do I keep my emotions and feelings to myself because I don’t feel safe sharing them, for fear of it being used against me? Consider if your conversations are always making you feel unsafe to share, your emotional safety is important as well.